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Originally Posted by golden_eve
When I date, I usually date just one person at a time, which usually turns into a relationship quickly. I cannot casually "date" and date multiple people. I don't know how to play the field. I've never been good at it.
Being single means not dating to me. That's what it means. Choosing not to date at all.
But then I meet someone who is interested, and before I know it, I am too and then we get involved. This has happened a lot.
I just have to be careful about diving into something feet first and to be careful around new men I meet. Like this new male friend of mine.
I am working with my therapist on how to change my patterns with men.
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I am seeing the word quickly as a glaring flag at this point.
Is the dinner where you 'say' to him that it's 'just as friends' possibly, deep down, a bit of cat and mouse? Push and pull?
I know for myself and I'm hoping from what I see of everyone else chiming in, there's some concern and trying to assist in overcoming the patterns that led to your initial down trodden and seriously hopeless postings. And since it's online and faster than waiting a few days for an appointment I'd hope you might get some moments of pause and clarity considering you've said yourself that you fall into these non committal disappointing relationships that don't lead to that goal of walking down that aisle.