I am seeing the word quickly as a glaring flag at this point.

Is the dinner where you 'say' to him that it's 'just as friends' possibly, deep down, a bit of cat and mouse? Push and pull?

I know for myself and I'm hoping from what I see of everyone else chiming in, there's some concern and trying to assist in overcoming the patterns that led to your initial down trodden and seriously hopeless postings. And since it's online and faster than waiting a few days for an appointment I'd hope you might get some moments of pause and clarity considering you've said yourself that you fall into these non committal disappointing relationships that don't lead to that goal of walking down that aisle.