I agree with healing. If he knew you are friends, he wouldn’t ask you on valentine day date.

Men who move fast ignoring what they are told aren't always needy. Some do it because they are on a hunt, maybe he already senses a vulnerable woman. Love bombing already starts: hand holding on a first date as friends (not because you slipped on ice but because you held cold beer?), asking out on valentine day (of all days?).

He also senses that things might not be clear cut here. Women who aren’t into dating don’t go on a valentine day dates with men, you’d already have plans with friends or family. And didn't you already plan on meeting friends? So you cancelled on other plans to see this “friend”? I have a bad feeling again. I’ve been around the block. My guts usually don’t lie. Be very very careful

I also have to add that there is nothing wrong wanting to be in relationships or always being in one. But it becomes an issue when they are all short lived (one year is short and on and off doesn’t count as commited relationship). And the rest of the were all very short.

When they dont last because they are wrong men, how could you ensure you don’t meet wrong men anymore if you never give yourself any break from them? Not even a break to grieve or reflect on recent heartbreaks?

I don’t want you to get hurt!!!!