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Originally Posted by ForWhatItsWorth2U
I think that it's fine to see him on Wednesday. If he asks you out again you might ask him what he's looking for. Is he looking to be in a committed relationship? Does he want children? Where does he see himself in the next 5-10 years? I know that you are trying to remain friends and I think that you have shown him a boundary. If he tries to push against that boundary, asking him serious questions may make him think twice about things. You could say that although you are not looking for a dating relationship right now, but if you were you would want to date someone who was looking for a serious relationship. He may not have that in mind at all, just wanting someone to have fun with. That is fine too, but just keep in mind what you want the end result to be.
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Originally Posted by ForWhatItsWorth2U
Don't automatically "give" to this guy. Make him work for your attention. You are the prize. You are worthy of what you want. If he doesn't want to work for you then he isn't worth your time.
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I’d warn against playing “hard to get” and make yourself deliberately unavailable. Games don’t work in a long run.
But I’d urge women for leading full life with a lot of other things going on. If every time man calls and asks on a date, woman says “yes” it is a sign she has nothing else going on or is willing to cancel her plans to see him. That smells of desperation. So it is better to naturally lead full life. I remember when my now husband asked me for a second date during our first one, I had to pull out my calendar and the only time I had was two weeks from then.
I either had work, or very consuming activities pertain to my hobbies or I had outings planned with my girlfriends. I literally had no free days. And no freaking way I’d cancel my plans for someone I just met (even though I liked him).
He was ok waiting plus he was excited that I had ton going on. His ex had nothing going on, including refusing to hold a full time job. Most men I have ever met like independent women with full life (if they are looking for serious).
But I wouldn’t ever deliberately play games.