Hello everyone,

I would enjoy hearing different sides to an issue I'm facing now w/ my new roommate, who I don't live with yet as I'm moving.

I'm moving out of state & found a new roommate in a facebook roommate group for that particular city. We did Facetime & everything seemed to go well during our chat. After our chat it appeared to me she changed her tone a bit as her messages to me were more 'formal'. This could just be an incorrect observation on my end but this is not the main issue.

She told me her friend moved to my city & she would be visiting in a few weeks, and I mentioned we should hang out when she's in town. Then she arrived in my city & I sent her a message saying I'm down to hang out when she has some time.

About 5 days passed & I didn't hear from her, although saw her many facebook posts of her & her friends visiting/eating at different places. She was set to leave on the 7th day so I texted her asking her if she wanted to meet up before she left & she replied that she had plans that night & she was leaving back home the following day in the morning.

Then the next day I saw her many facebook posts of her hanging out in my city having dinner, so she lied about her plane departing in the morning.

I could understand if she was busy or had priorities to hang out w/ her friends, but I found it very childish, tacky & disrespectful that she 1) didn't even find it important to carve out a bit of time to hang out w/ her new roommate & 2) that she had the audacity to post pics on facebook of her dinner knowing I would see this & realize she wasn't being honest.

To me, it shows a real lack of respect & maturity, as she could of handled it in a more courteous manner. I also see it as a potential red flag as respect, honesty & maturity are very important to me. It also makes me doubt that she's the right roommate for me.

Any thoughts on this & how would you handle it?