Of course my attitude is like this, if you've spent your life seeing psychologists and following their advice to no worthwhile result you'd also have a crappy attitude towards them - else your passive and have other issues. I used to be VERY open to psychology because it could potentially help. But something can only fail you so many times before you give up on it.

In terms of relationships, if I must not try hard to fix it what must I do then? Being myself and just "being" in the relationship naturally causes the relationship to fail as well, because there is something wrong with my natural self - if there wasn't we wouldn't be having this conversation because I'd be somewhere off in the world happily, realistically successful in all aspects of my life; so non-striving theory isn't helpful either.