No, we did learn distress tolerance, I'm sorry I didn't mention it - I just found it the least helpful. I have a distress tolerance box, but when I am in distress it's absolutely useless.

The distress tolerance doesn't actually distract me most of the time, and even if I manage to distract myself the feeling never gets resolved so it just keeps repeating until distraction is no longer effective. In terms of self-soothing, there is nothing they taught me that allows me to self-sooth at all. I can't eat to self sooth because I'm obese already and I can't employ sex to self-sooth because sex causes me other emotional problems and just makes the situation worse. Other crap like staring into a candle flame just makes me angry, if anything, it elevates the bad feeling. "Improving the moment" doesn't help either, because it's theory is based on the idea that "I should feel good because others are probably worse off than me" - which is a ****ing disgusting mentality, so that obviously doesn't work.

I'm extremely frustrated. I've given up on psychology all together and have accepted it to be a collection of pseudo-science ********ers just ********ting for cash because they can easily manipulate people into thinking their theories are somehow real science.

The only reason I still come here, to this site, is because many people here have similar problems to me and I'm hoping that in some random spurt of luck someone ends up solving one of their own problems with a solution that I can also apply to one of my problems. Plus, I see worth in asking advice from people who are roughly in the same boat as me - that makes sense to me.