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Yes, I would agree with you this individual's behavior raises a number of red flags. Unfortunately, I don't know as there is any real way to get to the bottom of this, so to speak. You could message her & express your concerns & reservations. But there's no way to know whether or not the responses you'll get will really change anything.

I guess if you communicate your concerns, & the responses you get are argumentative or defensive, then perhaps that would help to solidify your decision not to room with this person. But, on the other hand, it's also possible the answers you receive could be conciliatory but, once you move in with this person, you'll find that your initial impression was correct & you'll wish you had "trusted your gut", as the saying goes.

I suppose, to some extent, part of what the question comes down to is how feasible it is for you to find another person to room with. And then, of course, the other problem is that you could find another person to room with & run into unexpected problems with that person too. So there may simply be no clear-cut answers here. You didn't mention what the timeline is for this move. If there's time, perhaps you could leave your current arrangements in place for a while &, in the meantime, also look around for other possible options. Then, if you don't find anything you think would be better, you can still go ahead with your current plan. Good luck!