Hi Deb, I think I get you...questioning and comparing, trying to understand why we'normalish' types seem to overlooked, or averagish type.
I think we can flip this around though, we can guess all sorts of things about why other people are partnered up, and not us. But, whats glaringly obvious is that looks are not what make it happen. Face it, we live in a time where all of our old fashioned ideas don't get us what we need and want, dating is about putting yourself out there, knowing and being proud of who you are, and hopefully looking for the person who likes you for who you are too. AmIright?
Listen to me, miss too scared to date for myself but handing out advice to others like I know all about it.
I have been watching though, and I can see that the people who take the time to build themselves up won't waste a minute with someone who isn't good for them, and they can see them right away too. It used to take me a long time before I would finally realize that this was not for me, and was toxic. But, I am working on pulling myself together, not because I hope for a good relationship for once in my life, but because I am hurt too much by the way it's been.