I think there are large chunks of my T that are universal, and I think her therapist persona just dials up certain parts and dials back others. She has told me before that when she trains interns, one thing she tells them is that you have to "be yourself in the room." She seems a bit feistier or sassier in real life based on small anecdotes she has shared, whereas she is always very patient and conciliatory in therapy. I also think she might be a bit more high-strung or anxious when dealing with her own life, compared to how she is when we're dealing with mine. Basically I think the wiser and more grounded parts of her are more active when she's doing therapy, but I don't think she is dramatically different from how she is everywhere else. (We have talked about this as well, although I recognize that she may not be the most reliable narrator about such things.)