I think most therapists to an extent play a role in session: they appear calm, attentive and patient but I very much doubt they are like that in real life. In real life, they are annoyed, tired, grumpy, selfish and inattentive. It's fine: everybody is like that once in a while, the problem is that therapists rarely admit it which often encourages some idealization from their clients (and therapists lap it up). I actually dated a psychologist once. She was pretty boring and I wasn't attracted to her physically so I broke things off after a month but I asked her about her clients (because I was curious) and she made a face and said "some are ****ing crazy, you wouldn't believe it". Make of that what you will. The mother of a friend of mine is a psychologist as well and she's lovely but of course I have no idea how she is with her clients. With my ex therapist, I found a Facebook page that she made for her breeding business where she often posts pictures of her dogs and the progress the puppies have made. Her humour is really cringe-worthy and she makes constant spelling mistakes. When I used to check this FB page, I was constantly embarassed for her. Doubt we would ever have been friends if we met in real life.