So, another option is to tell him that you will fix x, y, and z, and he is responsible for abc and if he doesn't hold up his half of the tasks, you will call a repairman to do it and he can foot the bill.

I don't think this is about men fixing things. I think this is about him not handling things. Whether or not he actually does the work or gets it taken care of doesn't matter, he needs to handle some of the home issues and not expect you to deal with everything.

You know, I'm a terrible housekeeper. If I move in with someone, they're going to have to handle that I use a cleaning service. There's a certain amount of chores I can handle, and then I have my friends at the cleaning service who come in and help me out. But the thing is, at least I get it done. One way or another. I have to ask for help, but I get it done. If he needs help, that's fine, but he needs to get things done.

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