So many posts on my part...I'm enjoying this thread.
I've had people close to me assume some of my err...presentations of myself are the "real" me and others are "fake" (fake is probably too strong a word). Like my cousin gave me the advice that I don't need to wear so much makeup on my eyes, and what she was implying was that the "makeup wearing wanting to be pretty and feminine" presentation of me is not the "real" me. I wish I could persuade her to understand that all my _very_ different presentations are the REAL me.