I am with a guy who is was never too handy when it comes to fixing stuff. I grew up with a father who was a jack of all trades. It's quite a contrast. I remind myself that I was looking for a man who wouldn't be too much like my father, and I sure got that. My father was the "take charge" type, but could be domineering. My guy is not domineering at all, but sometimes a bit too passive. I figured out that, in life, everything's a trade-off.

I am the "Ms. Fix It" in my home. If my guy tries, there is a good chance he'll just screw it up more. I accept that he cannot change. I remind myself that he always loved to cook for me. So you might ask yourself if your guy has compensating qualities.

If this is basically laziness and just not wanting to be bothered doing anything, then that's unfair and is going to make you chronically unhappy. Maybe you could just let some things go unfixed, and see if that motivates him to make an effort.

I guess there is no really knowing someone until you have lived with them for a bit.