I refer to the ideas like waiting for love to show up, or not pursuing someone you like because it would be unfeminine, or being very careful about always looking just perfect...unless of course, you don't mind waiting, or you really do think pursuing someone is beneath you, or you wouldn't leave the house unless you look perfect.
I guess what I said earlier is just as broad a brush stroke as a lot of us paint with.
The main thing though, thats different, is online dating, that seems to me to be the accepted norm for meeting someone, and for getting dates.