I used to get so angry at my H when I would give him tje task of calling usually regarding a mess he had already made but sometimes because I was up to my eyeballs in an engineering project t work & just needed him to take care of it. He jyst coyld not make phone calls. I had remembered when it used to stress me & just practice & doing it made it easy for me. I would get so angry when he wouldn't call or mess things up worse when he did call. I had no idea that I was dealing with a H who had undiagnosed ASD & communicating was next to impossible for him. I saw it but could never correlate in those days how someone with a very high IQ & who was also a computer design engineer like me coukdn't do the simplest communications let alone on the phone. It was something he NEVER could do & after I left him, he has pretty much destroyed his own life because of this inability....big things like communicating with the IRS & the foreclosure company. In many ways it is very sad when anyone is incapable of taking care of everything in life because when we get sick or unable to handle the things we need a partner who is just as capable as ourselves to handle live needs & fixes.