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Originally Posted by hvert
It's really not about his skill level at fixing stuff - it's about his unwillingness to take responsibility for basic things that come up in the course of daily living. It doesn't take skill to call someone to pick up an old mattress, right? I'd be furious about this also. It's good you are recognizing it now before it goes on for six months and you are stuck in a pattern where you do everything.
Does he take responsibility for any aspect of your shared life? Bills, cleaning, food prep, cars, pets, etc? Is there anything that's his task?
Every time I reread the comment about you calling up the trash people because you're female, I cringe. I'd be very tempted to tell him to go back to his old place since he still has it!
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I've had to pay the deposit and the first month's rent so that's a "loan" to him ...
Cleaning - well I just left his clothes in the washing basket for a week and told him I'm not washing his clothes because he never turned the machine on and then when I had washed, tumble dried and folded his clothes into piles he'd just pick them up and toss them in the cupboard. Food prep - I cook 4 nights a week; he cooks 3.
"Cooks". He will cook the one night; but cook enough for us for the next night so he doesn't have to cook 2x a week. On the 3rd night he gets take away; so yeah - he doesn't "cook" more than 1 night a week.