You may be onto something here. I get your not just throwing that label out there.

When I would tell my H something he would look at me like I had just spoken to him in a foreign language. He needed to be taught absolytely EVERYTHING he did in life & could never figure it oyt in his own (except for maybe things in his work) but he even got in trouble there when he was sure he figured it out right but wasn't even close to what was required, he would argue that he was right.

Yes, I don't throw that dx around llightly, only use ut ehere it applies after years of research after leaving him because I needed to know what I had been dealing with all my 33 years of married & living with him life. It came across as abuseful behaviors on his part much of the time & definitely emotionally neglectful but at times it felt like I was the one being abuseful especially when I felt the need tobtreat him like a child just to communicate with him & try to get him to understand what I was saying & asking him to do.

I understand your frustration but honestly if it is ASD, it wkn't get better & it seemed to get worse with older age in my case.

I wish you the best with your difficult situation