I have always had the urge to email my Ts a lot and often, but I used to want replies and was disappointed when my T wrote short responses. For a long time, we discussed and argued about whether emailing was helpful or harmful for me.

I especially have a need to email after my session, to analyze it and tell T how I feel. At least this is how it used to be. I would write a few emails per week and I would be satisfied. T wrote "better responses" and I also became more accepting if they weren't exactly the replies I wanted. Sometimes I wrote, and still do, as if I am writing in a journal but it satisfies me that T reads it though she doesn't respond to much unless I bring it up in my session.

Once she agreed not to stop my emailing, the urge lessened somewhat. I can go some weeks without emailing at all. Maybe it has to do with having a more secure attachment to my T. Or maybe I got everything out in 8 years, LOL!

Confused, do you like to write in general? I have always kept diaries and journals; writing is something that comes naturally to me and I enjoy it. I used to express myself better in writing but now I like talking more too.

If your T doesn't object, keep writing! It obviously fulfills a need for you.