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Old Feb 14, 2018, 03:17 PM
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Originally Posted by DechanDawa View Post
Thank you, and thanks for responding PF. I hope your running is going well. I remember you talked about your running club. The thing about a running club that makes me nervous is I don't know if it will be a "fun thing" or if people will be all kinds of competitive.

Over the years I have done a lot of wacky things to meet people....I joined a drumming class...I took fly-fishing lessons...I volunteered with therapy horses...I taught little Tibetan children how to read..I was at one time pretty involved with my spiritual community...I was a hospital volunteer for over a decade...I started an origami club...was a neighborhood watch participant...

I am no stranger to how to reach out socially. I guess I am missing friends...genuine friends. I think you are wise in saying it is probably rare. I have one friend from childhood who is a true blue friend forever...but we don't live near one another.

Being single also makes it tough. If I was in a relationship I would probably not even be writing this thread.

But it is better to be alone than surrounded by toxic people so I guess I am making progress as my life is thankfully purged of toxic people.
Yeah I get that, you are missing that 'connection', I know that feeling - you never know, acquaintenceships can sometimes lead to friendships so maybe by reaching out you may find some deepen. You've been hurt, it's hardly surprising you are nervous of it happening again, but you are older/wiser and will recognise the signs of 'toxic'.

You are right, some running groups can be more friendly than others, I have found the 'affiliated athletic club' types to be more competitive less friendly. Look for mixed ability, and dare I say it plenty of other women (in my experience the guys are usually more competitive!). Wishing you luck
Thanks for this!
DechanDawa