No I didn't mean he says that to tell me how to feel. He already knows I feel attached to him, want to feel safe there, etc, but feel ashamed that I want that. I tell him I can't stop comparing stuff and he says that part of why I'm doing the comparing is that I feel ashamed for wanting stuff from him when I don't feel like it's "justified".

I say I didn't want this before therapy because I've never wanted to feel little / safe / protected so much by anyone besides my T.

I don't think my life has been very difficult but I know it's all relative and I shouldn't use that to torture myself. But it's hard for some reason.