Hello everyone, apologies in advance for what may turn out to be over thinking in the extreme but I only just had therapy and now have to wait a while before the next session

Alright, so there were plans in place to finally go on a date with a man I've been messaging next week BUT tonight there have been some gigantic red flags and now I'm really worried. I'm 20 still living at home with my family - I tell him this and he (soon to be 27) suggests I introduce him to my parents (too soon?) ater I told him I can't spontaneously meet him at 9:30pm. He says this would be a good way of proving to them and me that he can protect me/won't hurt me... what would you make of this??

I tell him about my anxieties surrounding gay bashing - a rising problem in the gay community - and he tells me a story of how he was raped by a gang of men he met from the app we're using who attempted to kidnap and kill him but he thankfully got away. He says this all happened in a popular park here in my town; he went to the police but nothing has ever been reported in the press.

I'm not sure if I don't believe him but I can't help but feel this is too coincidental... all of my anxieties surrounding him turn out to have happened to him??? I feel like he may have made the story up to earn my trust/show how he isn't capable of hurting anyone because he himself is a survivor. This, in his mind, could be used to lure me in so he can hurt me (or so I'm thinking).

What do you think?? Am I being really paranoid or is this something to worry about?? If you made it this far, thanks, really appreciate it as I know this is a long post