I've been with my bf for about 4yrs now and we also live together. He's my dad's caregiver and really helped me get through some tough times. He's an amazing boyfriend, but when it comes to appreciating or even accepting any gifts I get him, he's confusing and awful at it. Most of the time I get him gifts, he doesn't show appreciation for it and at times will even tell me he prefers money over a gift.

Besides Valentine's Day today, it's also his 24th birthday. I planned for months that I wanted to do something very special for him to show him how thankful I am. Since we don't get much alone time due to my dad living with us, I thought it would be a great idea to surprise him with a hotel room on this beautiful lake. Today he kept making comments about how if I was getting him a present he would just prefer cash. I've been planning this for 3 months and saving money from my job for some time on the side. Besides the hotel, I planned two days of fun events to do together.

I told him how much it hurt when he said that since I had been saying for weeks I worked really hard on putting his surprise together. He kind of pressured me into telling him what the surprise was and I finally gave in. Instead of being happy, he seemed upset and kept telling me how I should just cancel it. It really hurt as I've been working extra shifts trying to raise some extra cash to save on the side despite having poor health the last month.

He told me he would have rather just had the money again. All my gifts have always been things he's asked for in the past. It's not like they're gifts he doesn't like. Sometimes I do give him money/a gift card instead. I just thought it would be nice to get away from our stressful life and spend some quality time together. He never once even said thank you or showed that he at least appreciated it. Did I honestly do something wrong by trying to go all out for his bday? He's making me feel that way and when he acts like this it confuses me so much.