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Old Feb 15, 2018, 02:51 PM
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Well, the whole idea behind a funeral is that it's a ceremonial way for family and friends to pay their last respects to the individual that has passed away.
I know that-

There's other ways to do this comforting to others instead of rushing to fly out with money that I really should be saving for my other goal in life (I to live alone), and putting myself in a battle field that may more harmful to me than doing me well.

This is something I'll talk to my t on, but I believe this is hitting what she was trying to get me to understand.
For me to Knowingly going into a situation that Sparks are igniting at the moment, and with me not being stable enough- is irresponsible and invalidating to myself.

I can't save people, I shouldn't get myself in situations that may re-traumatize me or confirm negative core beliefs, especially when I'm aware that I'm not in a stable enough set of mind to take others ********.

That phrase, leave well enough alone, comes to mind right now.
Some may see that weak or selfish, but that's their perception. And I need to worry about right now is making peace with my decision on this topic. Why I'm taking steps with, I reached out to a few and will go from there.
I'm sorry if this is disagreed, but everyone is different- and that's ok.
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