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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme
It seems like one of those dynamics that gets started, and spirals until confronted. I doubt, in his mind, he is giving you less than positive regard, but he is misattuning and blowing it with you anyway. You should let him know. We have all these threads on how defensive therapists ironically become when put on the spot, so maybe wait for an incident to come up and say hey that hurts my feelings? I feel less close to you than I used to and it makes me sad/ feel less like coming to therapy?
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Thank you @SalingerEsme, I really appreciate how you wrote that. I do find it very hard to be vulnerable like that, so I am going to tell him something and hope it goes alright with him. At least I'll know I am trying to work things out with him, as I have stopped going to therapists in the past. One I confronted said I didn't have a right to be angry at him for repeatedly changing my appointments almost every week... My last one made me very uncomfortable, so I prefer going to the one I am seeing now.
The problem I have is reacting on the moment when it happens. I have this late reaction thing from being in social interactions where things don't start to bother me until later or the day after.