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Old Feb 15, 2018, 04:45 PM
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no silence does not trigger me to dissociate, not even before I was integrated. though I do have to say after integration it did bother me, not in an upsetting way more in a wow this feels weird way. I have heard voices all my life of those I had some sort of co consciousness with. going from hearing a voice when I was having my dissociation symptoms to not hearing the voice that came with what ever was causing me to have dissociative symptoms was a bit not normal for me...

example before integration thunder would case me to feel numb, spaced out and disconnected, then I would hear rainy's voice as she took control to handle that situation. now that I am integrated when a clap of thunder roars i have that moment of wow cant hear rainy weird oh yea I dont need to hear her because she and I are one whole person now, what do I need to take care of myself right now, I feel like making a sandwich, putting on a fun movie maybe a comedy so I dont hear the thunder so much.

see what I mean its a moment of weirdness but it passes, its silent as in no rainy voice but its not a major trigger, just a thats weird moment.

now if you mean like sitting talking with a friend and both the friend and I are silent, no, the same with when I am in therapy or with my treatment providers, the silence is usually very welcome and comfortable.

i guess it all just depends on the trust level for me, if I know someone well and trust them the silence is just silence comfortable but if I dont know someone very well and have feelings of mistrust then the silence is a bit uncomfortable. then it may be a verbal silence but not a mental silence as I start asking myself questions... what are they thinking, what are they up to, what should I do or say now...