Thanks for the input to everyone!
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Hello. I’m overwhelmed, too! I am just trying to force myself to tackle one thing at a time. The most important thing first. Total stress overload. Instead of doing these tasks, I’ve taken a pill and hid in my room. PC relaxes me. This is my coping source. I’ll do what I need to do eventually because it simply must be done...or not. Ive never not come through, but I suppose there’s a first time for everything.
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Ah, I see. Can you imagine yourself doing this for years without the situation improving? I can't... It ruins my whole day/days until I manage to get through the pain.
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Originally Posted by Bozdickens
I just take things one at a time and I try to focus on what’s going on at this exact moment. Also if I’m really struggling I make myself think of what’s exactly bothering me, and what exactly do I need to make it better?
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If I focus on the present (instead of withdrawing), I get the untolerable physical stress reaction... :/ and I have no idea what exactly is bothering me.
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Originally Posted by BLUEDOVE
Just done same thing last night,recovering today. And see it is NOT the computer or the work,or outcome . . .it is ME! It is my
attitude (must,must get this fixed up,oh,look at time,need to hurry, damn to hell,etc.,etc.). These are things OUTSIDE of me,
but I'm not outside,I'm INSIDE ME. I realise I was in effect,not
fully conscious or I would have been able to stop and say something like: "C'mon, slow down,nobody here to tell you to
get move on,no one to point out mistakes,no one to criticise me
except me " In other words,not a soul with a whip behind me,
just little ol' me and similar words running through subconscious
that I don't realise are controlling me like a damn puppet!
Sooo, how about some soft,gentle,kindness to dear self ? EH?
Hope that helps.
Kindness,
BLUEDOVE
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I wish I was just telling myself such words explicitly (like, "need to hurry, damn to hell" etc). I'd take that over this nonverbal stress reaction. It speaks no words so I can't even read what it is, let alone handle it.