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Originally Posted by DechanDawa
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I think many here would say a therapist should help you figure out what changes you need to make. For this, I think, a therapist with training in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is best...OR...
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Thanks, I've been at this for years with books etc too.
I just bought two on Amazon now that seem to be really specific to some of my issues, I hope they are good (it's RO DBT, the books are brand new editions). Supposedly the previous therapist is trained in CBT but...
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In a way your posts have enlightened me about my situation. There are times to self-reflect, and times to set goals, and activate. I have cleared away a lot of toxic stuff, and now the emptiness is a vacuum waiting to be filled.
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Glad if you found them enlightening in any way. I have goals, having trouble with getting activated, have had this problem for years but also still trying to clear away toxic stuff. It's all happening at once...
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No matter what...kind of mental ruminations we have...we can still learn to over-ride them with action. It WILL feel uncomfortable if we have anxiety and have hidden away...but it is actually good to stay with the anxiety while doing the action. This is outlined in both CBT workbooks, and DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) workbooks.
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I wish I had anxiety. I have something way worse.
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I really can't work with any therapist who doesn't do CBT because I am goal oriented. It sounds like you are, too. You sound like you want to activate but feel stuck. I think this is a common problem.
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Yep!
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Maybe when coping gets "stale" it is a sign that one needs to "just get on with it," if that makes sense.
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Sorry, what is meant by the phrasing "just get on with it"? (I'm not a native speaker of English actually)
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But for you, first, it sounds like you need some clarification and that is something a counselor or therapist is supposed to help you attain. 
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you can start your own thread with some specific questions and just throw them out and see what kind of response you get...
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Thanks, I already did that actually.
So I'll definitely keep it short in your thread / keep on topic.