I’ve done individual therapy and couples therapy. I could get into a long explanation about our marriage’s similarities and differences. For the sake of your dilemma, it’s like the marriage is between you, her, and a referee. I can only imagine how much money you’ve spend over the years of this “therapy” that is never-ending.

Since your kids are still young, and you may be scared of divorcing for their sake, you may just be stuck trying to best get along until you can get out of this bad marriage.

As someone who has been diagnosed with Borderline traits, which I do recognize that I have pretty mildly and was brought on by severe stress and frustration ONLY with husband and only over one specific thing, I strongly believe in boundaries. No one should have to give someone else a free pass to bad behavior and put up with abuse.