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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
I feel I was retraumatized in a sense by my marriage counselor. He knew about some stuff that had happened in the past with a high school teacher for whom I had transference. How I'd confided in him and then, at a really bad point for me emotionally, when I was really vulnerable, he told me to never contact him again.
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You took an active role in demanding that he talk to you on the phone that day, but how are you taking an active role in trying to repair the situation? I thought that bolded sentence referred to MC, but upon rereading, i see you mean the teacher. But it sounds like a repeat of that football day. And im afraid now youre doing it with your friend? Idk.
If i were you, i would go back to mc on my own and just work on apologizing for that phone call. Maybe it isnt safe to apologize to your h? But i really think you would gain strength and agency in dealing with mc as an equal, not as an injured bird. Or maybe squirrel! Anyway, i hate to see you lose what youve built with him. But you hold the key.