Well, it's hard to describe. I guess I would say a 'comfortableness' in the relationship. And by that I mean that I don't worry that I have to be a certain way or do certain things to keep her care. Maybe the biggest thing is that my attention has turned from focusing so much on my relationship with my T to focusing on my what I'm really in therapy for in the first place. That I don't care about the relationship any less, but there is more of a 'take if for granted' kind of feeling - she WILL care, she WILL be there, she WON'T hurt me, she DOES have my best interests at heart, etc.

As far as timing - I don't know if it's a timing thing with me or a T thing for me. I've been in therapy for 7 years with 3 different Ts. This is the first T I've felt securely attached to and I have been seeing her for 3 years.