I don't like his behaviour I'm afraid growly. I think part of the problem with above and beyond stuff in therapy is that it can make it more difficult to call a therapist out when they do something wrong. You can feel like you owe them, or fear having it taken away as you've described. I don't know that it is consciously manipulative, but on some level it is manipulative all the same. You do not owe him anything, and I can completely understand your fears.
It sounds like he his totally failing in his responsibility to your emotional wellbeing here. He should be trying to see it from your point of view. "Don't tell me how I felt" seems very passive aggressive and defensive. It sounds like you are expressing how it felt for you and that is valid and he needs to hear that.
Hugs growly. I'm sorry he's being such a jack@ss about it.