You might find a natural healer and/or herbalist in your area. I also suffer from an ED and have had similar problems and wasn't able to eat. There are things that can be done naturally to help/heal the GERD. There are also ways to get so you can eat things without spending hours in the kitchen. I don't/can't cook but with my herbalist's help, I was able to do what was needed to do. When I started, I could not get from the parking lot to the grocery store without taking a break from exhaustion. I was on 3 inhalers and a myriad of pills. Now I am asthma free and on no chemical drugs. I am able to eat real food. There is help out there.

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. It's so hard when you want to help someone and they refuse the help needed.

It sounds like you need other support than those "friends". For me, an herbalist helped a lot. The opportunity is there for you to take charge of your health. I do understand the difficulties of eating disorders and while I still struggle with them, things are much better than they have been in the past.

Also, I have DID and I know that can be a struggle with the food issue as well.

Best of luck in whatever you decide to do. Feel free to PM me if you need to.