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Old Feb 16, 2018, 08:51 PM
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Originally Posted by palsera27 View Post
My T says she’d be upset if someone be friended her then she found the person was interested in her.

I’m completely the opposite I don’t feel comfortable jumping into a relationships. I’m old fashioned friends first then it’s meant to be something else. If not I move on. At the very least I want to this woman to be my friend because she is very good at what she does and I would like her to be my mentor
I think it's perfectly reasonable to try to befriend someone before asking them out. You may find that as you get to know her that you aren't as interested as you thought. I think you can strong and stand up to your T and say "I know we disagree on this, but this is how I want to handle it." Your T should respect that you can only do what you are comfortable doing.

UNLESS...Are you female and interested in this woman as another female? Because then I could see how it's a little weird to be befriending someone you are romantically interested in versus just asking them out. Doesn't really change my thought on the matter, but I can see how it maybe could be a little weird or even seem creepy to befriend someone in this way.

But honestly, people do this every day in every friendship, regardless of whether we are romantically interested. We feel other people out to see if there's a connection. Seems odd that your T wouldn't see that.

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