When you are talking to your husband or asking him these questions, is he currently paying attention to something else like the TV or the computer or a book? I struggle with having a one track mind. If I'm on the computer and my boyfriend says something to me, I will often completely miss it and have to get him to repeat. I just can't focus on more than one thing at a time. Perhaps your husband struggles with this as well? I can understand your frustration though.