I read the opening post in the thread that Eskielover linked to. Is your financial situation still as difficult as it was? My SO and I manage to pay the bills, but not much more beyond that. Sometimes he offers to pay for me to get a massage, or get me something as a gift, and I say that if he has spare money, I would prefer he give me cash instead. BUT, he knows that this money would go toward bills and serve the purpose of leaving me/us some breathing room.

Honestly it frustrates me when my SO wants to spend money on a gift or a trip when we’re living paycheck to paycheck. I would much rather spend a small amount of money on a little treat, and then worry less about making rent when the first of the month comes.

I mention this in case it fits your situation— don’t know if it does.