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Old Feb 16, 2018, 11:47 PM
Ljj7000 Ljj7000 is offline
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Originally Posted by Virginiaham View Post
I understand what you mean about loving/hating being single - after 2 crappy relationships I’m very happy to be on my own, but I’ll admit that I get jealous when I see friends getting engaged or gushing about their happy relationships. This time of year also makes it worse because of Valentine’s Day hysteria, but I'm planning on buying myself chocolate and watching dark comedies instead of anything at all romantic. Oh, and avoiding Facebook that day!

I also know what you mean about community college. I went to my local college (off and on) for years and met a lot of fun people that way, but the problem was that they were so spread out that we rarely socialized.
Does your college have any student groups or activities that interest you at all? I joined the Improv Team for a short time just because it was something to do.

One thing that’s helping me not compare myself to others (as much…) is to remember that the people I’m comparing myself to were dealt a different set of cards in life, meaning that they may not suffer from mental illness and therefore are having an easier time than you or me. And also that sometimes people may SEEM really happy - but that could just be for show, and we would never know the difference.

And lastly I would suggest that you try to limit your time on social media. I know this is way easier said than done, but it really does make a difference. No one's posting about the hardships or disappointments in their life on Facebook or Instagram, so you only see the braggy stuff (about how great their job/relationship/whatever is) and naturally it makes you feel bad, or like you're not as accomplished. I took a FB break (ok... I made it ONE WEEK without, but still...) and it seemed to help my mental health a little bit.

Good luck!
Thanks so much for this.
Hugs from:
Virginiaham