I suppose it makes sense that he knows I'm not going to "fire" him. I do wish he'd give me as much respect as he gives his boss, though. I can ask him to do something around the house, that I'm not able to do, and it can go for days, weeks, or even months before it gets done. If I say something weeks later, "Well, you didn't remind me." My own therapist called him on that. At what point, my therapist asked, does it become his responsibility to remember, rather than mine to remind him? He's not going to expect his boss to tell him to do things more than once. He's going to remember, because it's important. (All of this, my therapist said.) But me, he can get away with it. Maybe he's showing me I'm not his boss?