So one psy said that 'this is never going to end.' You don't have to believe him. In fact, why not prove him wrong? Why not prove to yourself and to your kids that you can stand on your own two feet and not put up with abuse. Why not show your kids what it means to be strong? Your own child told you to stop it. Why not stop it? He/she doesn't want to hear it anymore. Don't ignore that. Why keep telling them what is healthy when you can show them? Actions speak louder than words.