I don't see where yr coming from? How can they be perfect when they don't have any virtues? Anyway you can't change someone after a life of adolescent behavior. Only one of the girls tries to communicate otherwise the rest aren't on speaking terms. One is a narcissistic lawyer, one has so little money and is so defensive about the lack of social status that any imagined insult puts you on the families shix list. A person will begin to reform IMO only when life puts them to the ground. I'm proof of that. I work around a lot of people and I think most want to respond from the high road- just that at times most anybody can be childish.