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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Yes, you both have gone through some traumatic stuff!
My mother also refused to admit scenes happened where she was out of control. She’s just verbally abusive, mostly. There was an epic scene in an airport recently. She just won’t admit it happened. Lol
In fact, now she’s saying she gets into a rage and has venom spewing from her mouth that she doesn’t mean. But, she only fesses up to that because she’s so obviously out of control, she can’t deny it. She has no remorse for it. She says, “I’m a screamer”, and she’s just fine with that. She says her recipients deserve it.
Plus— she even called me stupid for turning my anger on to myself, and that I should let it out to others like she does. She’s much smarter than me and I am stupid.  |
I can relate to your mom issues LOL. Mine denies the problem just as if she perceives her outbursts as normal, though she is extremely sensitive to disrespect on the receiving end. But that's just on the surface, she knows what she does is wrong.
During one dinner I asked if she didn't already splash out enough venom and expected her to announce I'd be beaten for that afterwards, since I was seated outside her direct reach. To my big surprise there was no such escalation this once and she even slowed down a bit, because what I said was so undeniably true. Or was it that my brother had started self-harming and she was staring like a rabbit at the snake?
I think my borderline mom's denials were an attempt to retain authority in spite of her inappropriate, erratic, disrespectful, in various ways abusive episodes. The claim of intellectual superiority falls into that bracket. She only does what's best, you are just to dumb to realise. A particularly destructive variation of "I hate you - don't leave me!"