ok, wtf

well, just tried talking to my wife.. went through a whle ordeal this morning about her not being awake with the children when they got up. i was actually very calm and nice about it.. she had to go into work at noon and this was 11 a.m. when i called. anywasy long story short , i called again 20 minutes later after she had asked me to and woke her back up and one of our children (the youngest ) was pouring water all over the floor while she slept. i brought up to her that how can i learn to trust her with our marriage and my feelings if i cant trust her to make better decisions at home.. well, that blew up nto a huge arguement that was only made worse by the fact that she couldnt talk because she had to be at work in 20 minutes.. so i called her at work , i knew they wouldnt be that busy and we faght to the point where i said we have no where else to go except divorce if we can communicate. she in turn said i have done this for 5 yrs and its your turn to make the changes and i told her it takes two to make the changes and help with the problems i have and she seemed to be stuck on the fact that i need to do it myself... i dont know what to do but i know im dying inside because of this and i am just afraid that we cant communicate anymore.. this isnt a suprise or anything but it is worse this past year... im starting to wonder if i just dont need to leave everything ehid and move to a small 3rd world country to live out the rest of my days