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Originally Posted by growlycat
Actually I spent 20 years doing psychodynamic therapy which I can say saved my life. I don’t think I could have started with cbt or dbt. I only changed modalities because I needed new therapists when I moved states. Other criteria were more important to me like having a male t, a warm style and personality that takes my insurance. I see lots of value in psychodynamic therapy
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Yes but it may not have been accident that you sought out those other modalities recently. I'll explain. I've been a very introspective person in my whole life - psychodynamics is just natural for me and, if I got into therapy young, it would obviously have been my choice and a passion for a long time. The thing though is that, at middle age (~40) I am still not managing well some important practical issues - like you, driving, dating, and also finances for me. When I started therapy at ~40, it quickly became a serious and everyday distraction from the practical issues of my life. I would get wound up and analyze myself and therapy to death on a daily basis - yet no or little advance in the areas I most wanted to improve. This (admittedly) subjective experience is why I feel a need to respond to posts like yours. I just wonder if we keep the right focus?