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Originally Posted by Xynesthesia
Yes but it may not have been accident that you sought out those other modalities recently. I'll explain. I've been a very introspective person in my whole life - psychodynamics is just natural for me and, if I got into therapy young, it would obviously have been my choice and a passion for a long time. The thing though is that, at middle age (~40) I am still not managing well some important practical issues - like you, driving, dating, and also finances for me. When I started therapy at ~40, it quickly became a serious and everyday distraction from the practical issues of my life. I would get wound up and analyze myself and therapy to death on a daily basis - yet no or little advance in the areas I most wanted to improve. This (admittedly) subjective experience is why I feel a need to respond to posts like yours. I just wonder if we keep the right focus?
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Wow yes driving, dating, finances all issues that apply to me too. I feel like it was a happy accident that I found a fantastic cbt therapist when living in CA. As a teen I was in a group home setting tied to a psychiatric hospital that had a definite bad attitude about any therapy that was not psychodynamic.
I believe someone there actually told me “only unintelligent people do well in cbt or dbt”. Which is absolute crap, but I carried that bias for years.
There are skills in cbt and dbt that you don’t always learn in psychodynamic. The downside to psychodynamic is to be focused too much on the past, too much on an illness mindset, and dismissing of practical goals.
Thank you for pointing this out!