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Originally Posted by ruh roh
I'm glad you feel better after your session, growly.
It does hit a tender spot with me right now, the things that therapists think but don't say or share, so when kashi shared judgy thoughts about another client, I took it personally. Funny how that works. I've always wondered if my therapist has critical thoughts about clients, so I asked her once and she said she generally is just trying to focus on why the person is there and what they need from her, but that there was this one time several years ago that a client mentioned really liking Sarah Palin and my therapist said she had this though flit across her mind, Sarah Palin? Really? But then refocused back on what the client was there for. I think it would crush me if she'd said something mean about a client.
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I agree with you on this! His negative thoughts and feelings about other clients, although human are judgemental and hurtful. Every time he shared those feelings with me I kept wondering if he ever felt that way about me too. “That could be me” is the refrain repeating in my head.
Kashi now recognizes how destructive this is. At first he denied that the word creepy had any correlation to the feeling of disgust. No way he said. Ok then I challenged him on the word creepy being very very judgemental. That’s where he conceded.
My old long term t used to say I can be mad at you and still love you. I hope that thought will help you as it helps me. They are human and don’t just feel one way about us.