and something i have omitted... and im wondering if its me or something else... my wife says i call to much. i work nights which are days back in the states. she says i call about 4 to 5 times a day and IM here a few times a day. i dont think its excessive but she complains that she has alot going on in the day. she says 1 to 2 times a day is ok. but im supposed to understand how busy she is.. is it me thinking that means she doesnt want to talk to me or something on her behalf?