I’m obviously the main if you simply count time out and the amount of life-responsibilities I handle. The others weren’t liking how I tend to “boss them around” and someone suggested to me that I’m just a part like them, and I wasn’t always in charge. The realization began to creep in...I knew it was true, but I didn’t want to believe it. I’ve been “in charge” for a long time,since about middle elementary school, and then I was only in charge of school work. Up through high school there were others who did social stuff. I became in charge of work, and then just about everything else. (I had no real knowledge of being in a system then). when people of them suggested I wasn’t the “first one” I instantly knew who was.