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Originally Posted by LiteraryLark
No. You are an adult. You don't need his permission, and he is not the reason why you can't move out, it is because you do not make enough money to move out. I am also concerned about your "alters" and how roommates would be difficult in understanding your current state of being and the fact you will no longer be able to borrow money from them like you do with your brother, who does in fact give you things, but only things you need, not frivolous cigarettes which is nothing more than a crutch.
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well cigarettes are an addiction. Nicotine is one of the most addictive substances known to man. Still it is possible to quit. I did in July 2015, finally for good. Not one puff ever.
It seems you are in a bad dynamic in many ways with your brother but a big factor is your chain smoking. You can stop chain smoking. Space your cigarettes out and don't smoke more than you can afford.
That is a step in the right direction and will free you in many ways from your brother's controlling behaviors.
Don't let him go into your doctor's office with you on a regular basis. You have the right to privacy regarding your medical/psychiatric care.