It's not all that surprising that when you join a dating site service you don't see anyone that you feel could be a fit for you. I do know someone that has been successful at being self sufficient like you are and she flat out said that the one thing she could find easily is a guy that wanted basically a sugar mama they could move in with who would take care of them in return for their companionship. Actually, most of her good friends are outgoing and motivated women that are married but are the main bread winners where pretty much their husband is dependent on them.

What I can say is that it's not a bad thing if someone happens to like sports or likes to play gulf or has a passion of his/her own. You would not want to have to provide EVERYTHING to a partner and it's not a bad thing a partner can have something they can engage in while you engage in your own passion. It isn't a bad thing if a man enjoys his job either after all, don't you enjoy working and engaging? If a man enjoys his work then he may have more respect for how you engage your work too. Actually, a couple can have their own careers and enjoy discussing the various political challenges that always come with any kind of career. Sometimes it's nice to have a partner that actually understands having a working career and then wanting to have someone they can come home to and decompress with and veg out with, isn't that what you want?