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Feb 18, 2018, 07:28 PM
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Originally Posted by LadyShadow
Oh absolutely! I agree with you 100%! I mean people walk around with their head up in the clouds in their own little bubble of happiness because they have accomplished so much, or beat the addiction that had ruined their lives. And usually, they just want to share it with the world because they are just oh, so proud of themselves. Honestly, I don't think there is anything wrong with being proud of overcoming odds, but they shouldn't PUSH that on other people, because somehow they are now "entitled" to do so.
I am all for bettering yourself, and you're so right for saying "what worked for me may not work for you,' because that is the reality of it, because everyone is unique and different, therefore so are their addictions.
I am proud of you for overcoming your addiction, and I think you're spot on too about how people could be really patronizing when they tell you what you should and should not do.
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I've also quit many times, and I went cold turkey the first time, stuck for about 5 years, when I went to quit again, no way I could do cold turkey again.
The last time, I was quitting because it wasn't so great to smoke at work, even in the smoking areas, was frowned upon. So I would wear a patch at work and then have a smoke in the evenings...eventually I just stopped smoking in the evenings too. I don't even really remember how it happened except that I was so over not being able to breathe or talk without coughing that it almost seemed easy because I just couldn't even handle it anymore.
But I think the OP's point is spot on. Telling a person they need to just stop doing whatever it is that's contributing to their problems isn't helpful. Even if you are using a maladaptive coping behavior, it's the only way you know to cope. So instead, help them learn a new way to cope. And show some sympathy and compassion that it's difficult to make lifestyle changes.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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